By Sheba Mathew (she/her), speech language pathologist, Surrey
For years, I struggled to find the right words to capture a significant part of my journey. The title “From HSP to SLP” might seem unconventional, but it holds a deeply personal story. As a highly sensitive person (HSP) and a speech language pathologist (SLP), I’ve discovered that my sensitivity isn’t just a trait but a profound part of how I connect with others and approach my work. In this article, I’ll take you through my journey of embracing my sensitivity and how it has transformed my role as an SLP.
The term highly sensitive person was coined by psychologist Elaine Aron. According to her theory, HSPs possess heightened sensitivity to sensory stimuli—whether emotional or physical. We feel deeply, react strongly, and process experiences in a more nuanced way than most people. As strange as it may sound, I identify as an HSP. My sensitivity to emotions and subtle environmental cues has played a pivotal role in shaping who I am as an SLP.
Embracing sensitivity as a strength
As a child, I was labeled “too sensitive,” often ridiculed for crying easily or being overly dramatic. People didn’t understand that I wasn’t just reacting more to situations—I was feeling more. “You’re so sensitive” was never a compliment, but over time, I learned to embrace it. I began to see my sensitivity as a tool—much like how only the most sensitive seismometer detects subtle shifts in the earth. My heightened emotional awareness allows me to detect the unspoken needs of my clients, especially those with autism spectrum disorder, who might struggle to express themselves verbally.
Navigating the challenges of an HSP
Being an HSP in a profession as emotionally demanding as speech language pathology presents unique challenges. Early in my career, I often felt overwhelmed by the emotions I absorbed from my clients. I wasn’t just hearing their words—I was feeling their fears, frustrations, and anxieties as if they were my own. This emotional intensity left me drained, and I questioned whether I had the emotional resilience to continue in this field.
One significant challenge was setting emotional boundaries. As an HSP, I naturally empathize deeply with others, including parents anxious about their child’s progress and children struggling to communicate. I would often carry their emotions with me after each session. Over time, I realized that while empathy is essential, I needed to protect my own emotional well-being to serve my clients effectively.
I’ve learned that detached attachment—caring deeply while maintaining a healthy distance—is crucial. It took time, but I developed strategies to manage the emotional load, such as practising mindfulness before and after sessions to regulate my emotions. This mental boundary helps me stay present and focused during therapy without becoming emotionally overwhelmed.
Sometimes, being highly sensitive can still be exhausting, and I find myself needing to step back. Pausing is challenging when working full time, so I’ve developed ways to stay grounded. A walk in nature, for instance, helps me clear my mind and prepare for the emotional work ahead. Even a brief moment outside restores my energy, and I’ve heard many fellow HSPs say the same.
In addition to mindfulness and nature, writing has become a vital outlet. Journaling allows me to process feelings that might otherwise cloud my judgment or drain my energy. I also find solace in painting and colouring—simple creative acts that help me release emotional tension and regain clarity.
Beyond emotional management, I’ve made sensory accommodations for myself. Whether it’s wearing comfortable clothing, adjusting the lighting in my workspace, or being mindful of the foods I consume, small changes make a big difference. These practices help me avoid overstimulation, ensuring I can function effectively without pushing my limits.
Turning sensitivity into strategy
In my work, I’ve developed a system of quiet observation at the beginning of each session. By simply sitting with the child for a few minutes, without asking them to speak or interact, I can gauge their mood and readiness for therapy. This allows me to adjust my approach to fit their emotional state, ensuring they’re more engaged and receptive. It’s a small but powerful way to use sensitivity as a strategy for success in therapy.
Engagement and interaction are often my goals for a child, and play is my mode of getting there—because we learn best when having fun. I often start my sessions with a game that piques the child’s interest but requires minimal conversation, or sometimes, it’s a simple craft or colouring activity. This sets a relaxed tone and helps ease them into the session.
Finding my community
When I discovered that I am an HSP, it felt like all the missing pieces of my life suddenly fell into place. This revelation was enlightening and empowering, helping me understand many aspects of my experiences and reactions. Realizing this was so transformative that I felt compelled to share it with others.
I began sharing my journey on Instagram, discussing the challenges of being an HSP and how various situations affect me. I also talked about my strategies for managing these sensitivities and sometimes sought advice from my followers. The response was incredible. Connecting with fellow HSPs, especially those in caregiving professions like teaching or therapy, has been immensely comforting. Sharing our unique perspectives has not only helped us grow as professionals but also as individuals. Knowing there’s a community that understands the ups and downs of being highly sensitive has been a profound source of support.
Reflecting on the gift of sensitivity
Over time, I’ve come to see my sensitivity not as a weakness, but as my superpower. Being an HSP makes me a better SLP, and I wouldn’t trade it for anything. This profession didn’t just fall into my lap—I believe it chose me, and I’m endlessly grateful for that.
So, the next time you’re working with a student who’s struggling, consider what their unspoken behaviours are telling you. What emotions or needs lie just beneath the surface? For those of us who are highly sensitive, tuning into these subtle signals can be the key to unlocking breakthroughs.
HSP resources
The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron
The Highly Sensitive Child by Elaine Aron
Dr. Aron’s site includes HSP research, articles, and self-tests.
HSP articles and community support.
The HSP Podcast with Kelly O’Laughlin:
Offers insights and tips on navigating life as an HSP.
Highly Sensitive Healing with Lisa Lewis:
Podcast on self-care, mental health, and emotional wellness for HSPs.